Today my daughter changed her profile picture, soon after I get a text message

Today my daughter changed her profile picture. After maybe 5 minutes I get a text… ”I didn’t know she was dating a black boy, did you?”

It took me all day to think up a response, which I didn’t send personally but thought I would share for anyone else that “may not know”.

Yes in fact I did know, but the color of his skin doesn’t define who he is. What does define who is he is how he treats my daughter.

Heather Boyer, mom

I see my daughter dating a boy that comes to my house and shows me nothing but respect (a big deal in my book). It’s always Yes Ma’am, No Ma’am, we talk about football and baseball, he tells me bye when he leaves, and has not once shown me a lack of manners or respect.

I see my daughter dating a boy who treats her good. He takes her on dates, to ballgames, out to eat..not to a club or partying on the weekends.

Heather Boyer

I see my daughter dating a boy who takes her to church with him. Every Sunday. He plays in the band, she sits with his family. How many young men these days make church a priority? None of the others have.

He doesn’t hit her, cuss her, lie to her, or make her cry. Would I rather her date a white boy that did, to keep from her dating another race? Absolutely not.

So that’s my response to the question I was asked. And I know people have their own opinion, but at the end of the day, the fact that my daughter has someone that loves her and treats her like a queen makes me happy. That’s something I’ve never had in my life and I’m glad she does.

Note: This was shared by Heather Boyer on her Facebook account and immediately it became a viral post. 


Soon after, people started leaving comments on her post and sharing their own personal story. Here are a few of them:

‘This wonderful pic shows my parents on their wedding day in 1969…despite everyone saying they’d never make it, this March they will celebrate their 50th wedding Anniversary. I am the eldest of their four children and they currently have three grandchildren.’ — Michelle Mullen

’10 years together and our sweet little love.’ — Jessie Lowery

‘My husband and I on our wedding day in 2018. It’s truly about finding someone who loves, supports, understands & respects you to the fullest.’ — Rhonda Haley

‘My son and his beautiful bride…as a mom of boys all I care about is that she makes him want to be a better man. What more could a mom ask for? And yes, it’s so frustrating that color is even an issue in our day and age.’ — Lynn Hollis